Bondage Boot Camp Part 1 & Contest
When I decided to write my first BDSM novel, Together in Cyn, I thought I was so prepared to write it, because A) I’ve read the genre for years, B) I had what I thought was a great story, and C) I’ve watched porn.
Of course this, in my mind, meant I had all my bases covered and I was ready to write the story.
I wrote it, submitted it, it was accepted, I turned around and signed with the agency I’ve always wanted, and someone how or another that turned into a 10 book contract within 4 months. Thus the Members Only series was born. Haaaaaaa!! (Please picture sparkly lights coming down from pretty clouds here, because seriously it was that cool. **SMILE**)
Then my fabulous editor gave me my first round of edits. Holy shitballs, Batman!! I’m pretty sure a crayon box exploded on the MS. I organized it, made a spreadsheet of what I needed to do, did a major re-write on a few chapters, added more sex—‘cause I COULD, and then sent it back.
Between this round of edits and the second one – guess where I went?
You guessed it! Bondage Boot Camp.
Was it really called that? No, but that’s what it was. For me anyways. It was two and a half days of bondage, bondage, and more bondage. Chains, duct tape, and lots and lots of rope. Shibari bondage has a very special place in my heart. It’s wonderful and beautiful, and painful, and cleansing, and sexy, even if there’s no sex involved.
That brings me to the most important revelation of Boot Camp. Bondage does not equal sex. And bondage, at least the good bondage is better than porn even without the sex. It’s about a connection between a top and a bottom. Speaking to each other in complete silence. Their breathing coalescing in a symphony of not a single spoken word. Maybe a moan, or laughter. It’s so very different than what I had in my head. I am forever grateful for being exposed to this.
When I got the last round of edits for Together in Cyn my head was finally in the right place. In a space where bondage can coexist with the vanilla and blossom. Self-discovery is amazing and I hope each and every one of you has a chance to experience something that changes you, moves you, makes you look at the world from a different perspective to find something inside you never knew to look for.
Now you may notice that it says Part 1 in the title. As I write this, I am scheduled to go to another bondage convention in T-minus 4 days. Next month on Oct 20th, right here on DD’s blog, I’ll let you know how this one went. I can’t wait!!
CONTEST – Bad Girls of Romance Trading Cards plus Swag and Trading cards from yours truly. Get them before anyone else!! They are so hot you might need gloves to open the package!
Tell me if you’ve had any revelations like mine in regards to kink? What did you discover is VERY different from a pre-conceived notion you had?
Members Only, Book One
She knows it’s wrong. Cyn shouldn’t have feelings for fraternal twins Jared and Chris, her best friends. She shouldn’t want them to tie her up or strap her down, to take her one at a time—or together. The only way to control her taboo desires is to write them down and lock them away in her diary. Guys like Jared and Chris could never be interested in someone like her, or in the kind of sex she craves.
But Jared and Chris have read her diary, and sweet little Cyn is in for the shock of her life. The brothers not only own a members-only BDSM club, they want her. Need her. And now, with their unlimited funds and an entire establishment devoted to fulfilling her darkest pleasures, they’re going to claim Cyn for their own.
Inside Scoop: If you have a kink, this book probably has it too. If you like your ménage romances extra hot with a side of male-male romance, spanking, voyeurism and girl-on-girl action, come and get it.
A Romantica® BDSM erotic romance from Ellora’s Cave
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Jennifer Kacey is a wife, mother, and business owner living with her family in Texas. She sings in the shower, plays piano in her dreams, and has to have a different color of nail polish every week. The best advice she’s ever been given? Find the real you and never settle for anything less.
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Thanks for having me DD!!! Always love blogging here. You’ve got some great followers!
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No boot camp for me, but I learned a great deal simply by reading about women’s fantasies and reading books written by women for women, who enjoyed the practice or even just the fantasy. In addition to that, simply talking online with romance and erotica writers about what they did and liked gave this vanilla man an insight into the mindset that I was clueless about. Simply watching porn told me nothing about what really was going on in the mind.
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Jenn,
Good for you for doing your homework. (Doesn’t hurt that it’s fun homework!) If I’ve learned one thing in my journey as an erotic author, it’s how essential it is to fact check.
I am looking forward to hearing more about your research. 😉
Sabrina
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Jeff – always good to go to the source to pick someone’s brain! Assumptions can be humorous all the way to disastrous. 🙂
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Sabrina – Research, research, research it makes a HUGE difference when we write. It’s shocked me how many people have commented on things I’ve written and appreciated how much research when into it. Totally makes it worth every second of no sleep.
Corner me at #Rcon13 and I’ll blow your mind with what I’ve gotten to see. Just got back from the last one yesterday.
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omg….this book sounds hot!!! Going to check it out on Amazon….woo hoo ❗ 😉
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Hope you love it Ronnie!!
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Loved this story and I am learning research is very important. My stories all come out my imagination and a wide range and I am working on a Annie Oakley one plus a bondage which i knew nothing about but learning. I write F/F stories and there is no subject i have not attempted to write about. Of course all are still being worked on. Someday I hope I will get them published. But like you I read even if it’s F/F or M/M or F/M nothing stops me if I want to do my stories right. Keep up the great work. 🙂
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Thanks EB! And super good luck with your writing and getting published. All of the late nights and submitting and rejections are all worth it!!
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Oooh. Cannot wait… 😯
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Interested in your books. Anything for my cousin, Kevin!
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Yea, Marilyn!!! Hope you like a heck of a lot of kink! 🙂
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Okay, first of all – guess I am more interested in asking the question of where in the hell you find out about a bondage boot camp (LOL!)?!!!?? As for your question? I’ve read/reviewed some books that dealt with domestic discipline, and it’s always really bothered me that the Dom doesn’t get disciplined for “infractions” – but after doing some reading of author blogs, I found that the people who actively participate in DD even struggle with that whole concept – so then I didn’t feel like such a ninny.
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There are LOTS of bondage events all over the US all the time. Seriously easy to find. Do a search for your area and bondage and see what you get back. There are fetish websites websites or they’re too (and no I don’t mean porn sites – ha!!)
AND that’s not a ninny ? At all! Each relationship is different. Some Doms get in trouble just like any regular guy would. Others can “do no wrong” in the eyes of their slave. It’s all about finding the right level of kink for you!!
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Michelle – you are the winner!!!
I found you on facebook and messaged you with what I need to get you your neato swag.
Thanks everybody for commenting!!
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